Sunday, December 4, 2011

I Like Lists

I've been so busy and that's why I haven't posted in this blog yet. The next two weeks are going to be so crazy. Here's my to-do list:
1. Go to the DIA and choose a painting to write a 3-5 page paper on
2. Make a 6-7 page portfolio for creative writing
3. Make a book for creative writing with 3-4 pieces of work and leave it in random places for people to find and read
4. Write a 9 page paper on Roe v. Wade
5. Study my roles for Mock Trial for scrimmages on the 9th and 18th - I have to kick ass in both so I can secure my current role on the team. And the 18th is my and Nate's 6 year anniversary :(
6. I also have 3 final exams - Art, Democracy/Constitution, and Mock Trial
7. Keep up with my moms painting business, I'm an intern there now.
I'm so glad I have Nate to help me and to keep me on track when I need it! I have a tendency to get distracted verryyy easily

OK enough about me and my problems - This blog was made to talk about our relationship. Let me start by explaining it. We met when I was 15 and he was 17, and we started dating 3 weeks after we met. Nate went to community college when he graduated then we went to EMU together after I graduated. We've had our troubles like any long term relationship but we've never stopped loving each other. We got engaged last year and we're getting married next December.
I've always been the feminist type and neither of us are religious so people ask us why we're even getting married. Well:
1. Tax benefits
2. Easier to buy a house
3. Insurance benefits
4. Looks better when we want to adopt
5. Looks good to your employer - to be family oriented and what not
6. Financial aid benefits
7. Spouses can make medical decisions for you
8. Other legal benefits
Btw that's why EVERYONE deserves to get married

Get a pre-nup!

I think that I'd only ever want to marry Nate. He's my best friend, and pretty much my other half by now. We have the same views on so many things, we get things that no one else gets, and we understand what we both expect from each other. I think if your going to marry someone, you shouldn't expect anything to change and you shouldn't want anything to change. That's why your marrying someone right, to stay that way "forever"? Things I won't be changing:
1. My name - I'm staying a Noble, Nate is more than welcome to change his name though
2. My household chores - I love to clean because I have OCD but I don't touch dishes, the garbage, or cat litter and I never will
3. My attitude towards what my 'role' is in the relationship - I'm not getting married to be a 'wife' so don't call me that
4. My attitude towards my body image - I won't feel obligated to look how 'my man' wants me to
5. Anything else
Some women actually feel this way. In my opinion changing yourself especially for someone else can make you feel like your being controlled and you won't be happy

Here's a book I recommend: The Meaning of Wife

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Life as a Fiance

This blog was inspired by Mrs. Lyndsey Perez's blog about the journey of being a wife. My blog will be similar but I'll talk about my life as a fiance then becoming a wife. I'll talk about my relationship and what it takes to be with someone for 6 years, and give some advice. I'll talk about what works for us and what our days are like (just like Lyndsey's). I'll also talk about my personal life away from Nate, like school, Mock Trial, Phi Sig, and getting ready for law school. I hope you read this blog and enjoy it! :)